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Gain Control of Your Emotions – Learn to be Happy With Yourself


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Chapter 8

The last but definitely not the least thing that you have to do in order to achieve optimum emotional balance is to learn how to be happy with yourself. Of course, your emotions will never be put in the right place when you yourself are not happy and satisfied in your own skin. In this last chapter, you will learn some easy ways on how to embrace happiness within yourself.

Did you ever find yourself standing in front of the mirror feeling hateful and resentful of yourself? Do you really understand how it is to be totally disgusted with yourself, feeling the longing for change?

There are times when you feel upset about something and you allow the circumstances and environment to dictate whether you will be happy or not. But the stark truth is that if you live your life with happiness and choose what you will do so that you can be happy, it is very possible for you to be happy when you put your mind to it.

Easy Steps Towards Your Own Happiness

Happiness is something that you have to do on purpose. Even in the middle of difficulties and struggles, you have to choose to be happy. It is not something that comes from having things or money for the truth is, happiness stems from within you and you alone. Being happy with yourself simply means that you have to show mercy to yourself, forgive yourself, befriend yourself, accept yourself, and last but not the least, love yourself.

It is a lifetime journey that calls for regular self-examination as well as a continuous process of making peace with yourself. It is all about discovering the things that make you unhappy and opting to live in true peace. This means that you treat yourself with kindness and compassion. This makes you start to enjoy your life, even more, celebrating this as a peaceful adventure. This helps you to live your life to the fullest, allowing you to make the whole world a much better place not only for you but also for others.

However, learning to be happy with yourself might be among the trickiest challenges that are going to face. For some people, such challenges can be too hard to handle, which is why they just let these rules their lives. There are also those who endure challenges but some choose to overcome them and live with happiness.

If you want to be happy with yourself, here are some things that can help you out:

Self Forgiveness

You have to forgive yourself for having negative thoughts. Forgive yourself for not thinking twice and for talking. Forgive yourself for showing rudeness to your superior, parents, friends and siblings. Never think of negative thoughts about yourself for the wrong reasons or wrong steps. It is a type of thinking that will put your focus on the issue and not on the solution. It will be best that you say good things about yourself instead of saying negative things. Say positive things to yourself for it will be a sign that you already forgave yourself.

Don’t Talk and Think About Your Issues

Try to focus instead on the good in all situations that you face and all persons that you have relationships with, which include yourself.

Forgive Other People

If you like to make peace with other people, forgive, forget and learn to let go of the things that happened in the past. Holding grudges and resenting is never good. To forgive easily, assume that they did not cause offence to you in the first place.

Be Busy

When you are busy, you will have less time to think particularly of someone or something that cause you negative feelings. Keeping your hands full will keep the negative thoughts from triggering you over and over again.

Be a Blessing to Other People

Get your thoughts off yourself and instead, focus on being a blessing to those around you. Being a blessing to others results to more blessings coming back to you. This is an amazing phenomenon that not all people understand. Remember that life is not about receiving but more of giving.

Develop a Hobby

You can choose to spend your free time on listening to movies, reading, watching movies and other kinds of activities. These will help take your mind off the issues in your life and thoughts that you have concerning yourself.

Accept Who You Are

Never focus on things about yourself which you cannot control. Never strive to become someone else. Never care about what other people say or think about you when you are not even sure if they are wrong or right. Once you do this, you will be able to free yourself of anxiety and stress. Accept who you are, be content and hope to become a much better you.

Don’t Lose Hope

Remember that even the darkest tunnels have a light at the end. Hope is the one thing that you can never afford to lose and with this, you can take the path towards your happiness. This reminds you that things will be alright. With hope, you will be secured by whatever looks terrible is just a temporary occurrence and soon enough, things are going to turn out fine.

Be happy with yourself and soon enough, your emotions will be balanced perfectly and success will be within easy reach.